Where are you compromising your own happiness?
Updated: 6 days ago
This story is about sandwiches.
When I was about 18, I worked in the café of a kids play centre in Newquay.
I was there because my bf-back-then, Craig and I were bored after finishing college, so we literally stuck a pin in the map for a place to go for the summer. And I mean that. People say 'literally' all the time when they don’t mean it, but I really am saying that we got a pin and stuck it in the map. We're so lucky we didn't end up in the middle of the Irish Sea.
We dreamed of days lying on the beach and surfing, and nights working in exciting bars. But those jobs were taken up by other bright young things who had the idea a bit sooner. So he washed pots in a hotel, and I served coffee in a play centre to harassed parents and sugar-filled pop to their kids, and neither of us was any good at surfing.
Money is very important when it’s the only thing between you and slinging down your apron
On rainy days, the Fun Factory where I worked, was filled to the rafters. On sunny days you could hear a pin drop, and those were the days we used to spend time working out things like 'how much do we get paid for a wee break, based on our hourly rate?' Money is very important when it’s the only thing between you and slinging down your apron.
Every other week, me and other similarly clueless teenage staff would go out in a pair, with one wearing ‘the suit’– a much-sweltered-in panda costume way past its heyday – to hand out leaflets around town.
The second person was to help you not bump into people or fall into traffic, both things I’m pretty sure I did often. The panda aside, I have some good memories of that place, many of them after we were closed. Me and the team playing in the ball pool or squashing ourselves into the kids-sized go-karts for an after work race. (Where was Andrew, the boss at these times? Honestly, I have no idea.)
Anyway, this story is about sandwiches.
The food was mostly cakes, sausage rolls and filter coffee (it was the 90s). But sometimes we did a bit preparation, if not actual cooking. Me and Tess, my Fun Factory bff, made sandwiches and put them in triangle-shaped plastic boxes for the fridge display.
You could easily open and close the lids of these boxes. That is going to be important for what comes next.
Here's what happened
Tess caught me about to throw away a two-day old cheese and tomato sandwich that had reached the handwritten best-before sticker date.
She took it off me and said, ‘No, we don’t do that yet, let me have a look.”
We don't do what?
I gaped at her as she explained The Rules. She was as mortified as me, but also used to it, as a Fun Factory veteran of five months (probably the longest time anyone ever lasted).
The Rules were that when it reaches its best before date, you open the sandwich box and ‘check’ it. If the integrity of the sandwich isn’t too bad, but the tomato or cucumber has lost its oomph, you treat the sandwich to a new, fresh batch of the salad. On top of the existing cheese or ham. AND THEN PUT IT BACK ON THE SHELF WITH A NEW DATE!
Obviously, it was an upsetting rule. But one that nobody, including me challenged. (It was a rule! We we clueless, remember?)
In the end I embraced it to the point that I caught myself saying ‘oh no, we don’t do that…’ to a new, nice clean girl with limitingly basic standards of hygiene, who was just trying to save the public from a dry sandwich or worse.
'Give it to me,' I told her, and perpetuated the whole sorry situation.
So why the heck am I telling you about this?
Because it’s completely and utterly JAWDROPPING what behaviour we can get used to, when a) everyone else does it, and b) you’ve been doing it for ages.
As a mindset coach, my job is to get you to question existing behaviour, ESPECIALLY when that behaviour that has become the norm, when it comes to your money.
My clients are sometimes a bit surprised at the things I challenge them about, and that’s why I LOVE to work with people who are really open and excited about change.
Most of the people I work with have already done some work on themselves and are self-development junkies. They've tried a bunch of stuff, and also know there's a lot more to be done before they can lift the limits they put on themselves.
So, if you've read this far, thank you and here’s my question for you today
What behaviour has become ‘normal and fine’ to you when it comes to your finances, but deep down you know it’s not doing you any good? Where are you ‘changing the tomato’ instead of creating a brand-new delicious sandwich?
Are you just making do, when it comes to saving, earning or spending money?
Comment and let me know. And I hope I haven’t put you off your lunch!
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